Those days when my Pops would be absent, and I would wish that one time he did take me from school on a brand new bike of mine was an everyday thing. But it wasn’t and so it was a one-time thing. Unfortunately, I know for a fact that I was not the only Brother that has gone through this, been caught in this web, this dirty matrix where we can’t move, express our emotions or cry because our Pops weren’t there.
This the stuff for Brothers with daughters, and sons, because as of recently, I have become accustomed to more Black men with strollers, bobo’s bottles and diapers and doing the damn thing when it comes to Papahood, in a big difference from what we grew up with, and I just wanted to applaud these guys for being there for their children even when the money wasn’t there, because the presence makes a difference.
We have Kings and Queens in our laps to cultivate, minds to raise on the foundations that we build. And where ours may have started out rocky to stabilize in our growth, we can be a better foundation for our offspring so they won’t feel it..and this is definitely what I see.
It hits me hard to see a Brother I’ve known forever to be into his Marvel Vs. Capcom and Dragonball Z to be playing the same games with his PS Vita, my other brother to raise his infant daughter by her underarms and kiss her fat hischeeks. Yes, that is a new word, look it up…and another Brother to dress his son just like him. I think that is the coolest thing in the world!
We are the examples:
For our daughters: The men that she will date, find attraction in, and gravitate towards, because, they resemble us. They will have a better idea and foundation of who they are, as we are the very first man that she loves; the most intricate part of how her relationships with men go for the rest of her life.
For our sons: The Brothers they need to be, to survive, not only as Black men, but as providers and supporters for themselves and our Women, physically, emotionally, and mentally. We show them how to dress, respect ourselves and others, and carry themselves in a general way.
We are the opposite of what our fathers who were not there, were. Let’s keep breaking the cycle. Again, we have Kings and Queens in our laps, we have to make sure these crowns stay on.